As months have gone by during this period of staying inside our homes and social distancing, impatience, tension, and high emotions can creep up. It can almost seem overwhelming at times. Everyone operating under limitations every day can prove to be difficult. The daily news about the global pandemic throws us into more uneasiness.
If you find yourself feeling this way too, please know that this is normal.
There is no book on how to handle a global pandemic. There is no right or wrong way. Some people are hell bent to stay in a structured day and that’s ok. What I’m learning through this is that what works for one might not work for another. I love the idea of structure and routine for my kids, but they too are trying to make sense of a situation none of us have ever had to deal with before. The fact is the safety and stability we all crave is simply not there. So I don’t try to measure myself against what everyone else is doing. I can guide my kids with open conversations and have a listening ear for when they need to talk or vent.
But let’s be honest, there are days when I don’t want to get out of bed or do my work or do the chores around the house. On those days, I have compassion for myself and choose to run a bath and get quiet to reflect. If I can do that for myself, then I also have to have compassion and understanding that my kids are also trying to wade through the ups and downs of emotions as their world has just changed so dramatically from what it was several months ago. And I can’t promise them that it will go back.
Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging.—Joseph Campbell,
We put undue pressure on ourselves as parents, now teachers, now cooks, now coaches. And for what? This time is teaching us to slow down. Don’t sweat the small stuff. In the end if Johnny doesn’t do his assignment today, is it really going to matter? Is the world going to end if your laundry isn’t folded today? Let’s give ourselves a break. Understand that during these unprecedented times that we are all just doing our best in the moment. We have to push through the feelings of hopelessness and despair and embrace this time with grace and humility.
The normal that we once new may never return again. This is forcing us to find a new normal and urging us to let go of things and situations that we want to cling to. Transformation is rarely comfortable. During this time of solitude, find things to do that make your heart sing. Take a bath, play some music, and dance like no ones watching. Tackle that new hobby that you’ve put off because you never had time. Take that course that you’ve always been interested in. Whatever you want to do, begin it now.
Always remember, in those moments of uncertainty, that this too shall pass!